Walk & Talk Sessions

As an alternative and/or supplement to virtual therapy, I’m pleased to offer Walk & Talk therapy sessions.

During Walk & Talk Sessions, we will:

  • Meet at a predetermined location to walk in a public area.
  • Conduct your therapy sessions while on a comfortable walk and/or sitting outdoors.
  • Acknowledge the limits of confidentiality when meeting in a public setting.
  • Maintain social distancing (6-8ft) while wearing masks.
  • Plan for all types of weather (it is Colorado, after all), with a contingency plan for unsuitable weather.
  • Complete a COVID-19 health questionnaire prior to the appointment to ensure it is suitable to meet in-person.

At your request, Hazel will join for additional company — and fun!

Hazel is a 1-year-old, extroverted pup. So, she can’t wait to meet you.

Covid-19 has changed our lives forever. But you can still access effective, compassionate therapy when you need it.

Please schedule your new client consultation today to learn more.

Dear Highly Sensitive People, You Don’t Need To Change.

If you aren’t familiar with the term “Highly Sensitive Person” or “HSP” it refers to about 15-20% of the population which possess a unique sensory processing trait which allows them to pick up more on subtleties in the environment, resulting in deeper processing and often being easily overwhelmed with stimuli. Most people exist on a spectrum of sensitivity. Take the self-test here.

Many Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) were told — either consciously or unconsciously — to “toughen up” to survive this world.

Unfortunately, you probably got this message when you were very, very young.  And it stayed with you.

You learn you had to camouflage and hide your sensitivity – and thus hide who you are at your core.

Here’s an alternative:

I recently read the story about this remarkable sheep.

sheep
photo credit: Alessandro Deriu

She left her farm and spent 6 years wandering in the mountains.

During this time, she grew 60 lbs of wool. It protected her from the elements.

But more importantly, it protected her from the wolves who tried to eat her.

Their teeth couldn’t get through her thick, soft coat.

Your sensitivity – your softness – can be what protects you.

Yes, you will need some extra armor and protection to thrive in this chaotic, overwhelming world.

Especially if you interact with people who don’t honor or embrace your deep-feeling nature.

But this armor doesn’t have to be cold, tough, or unforgiving.

It can be soft, gentle, yet firm.

(Think: Boundaries. Self-care. Self-advocacy. Self-compassion.)

Your protection doesn’t have to be something different than who you are, but a sturdy extension of your caring, deep-hearted nature.

So, my dear HSPs,

Let’s not change who we are.

Let’s grow. 🌱


Here to support you during this difficult time.
Reach out to schedule your free new client consultation.

Change is Like an Earthquake: A Therapist’s Perspective on the COVID-19 Pandemic

Growing up in Alaska, earthquakes were as common as a cloudy sky.

We learned how to do earthquake drills as soon as we entered grade school. A light flashes, siren blare, and the drill starts.

The protocol goes like this: Get under a desk, table, or chair. Cover your head and neck with your arms. No table? Get in a doorway. Brace yourself between two sturdy beams if you can’t find cover.  

Then, hold on. Just wait. Continue reading “Change is Like an Earthquake: A Therapist’s Perspective on the COVID-19 Pandemic”

Self-Care Strategies for Highly Sensitive People During the Coronavirus Outbreak

Please remember to follow all public health guidelines to keep you and your community safe.

Nearly every life is being touched in some way by the COVID-19 pandemic. We are facing unprecedented times as a community, nation, and world.

As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), you’re undoubtedly feeling hard hit by everything happening around you.

Given how your HSP brain is wired, it makes complete sense if you’re struggling right now.

Here’s why:

The key traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person – depth of processing, empathy, awareness of subtleties, and a propensity for overstimulationmake you particularly vulnerable to high levels of stress, panic, and anxiety during the COVID outbreak.

Not to mention, many of you are already the helpers and listeners within your friend circle, family, community, or profession. You’re good at helping people feel better.  Yet, despite your best efforts, you can’t help them feel better. You only feel their stress due to the ongoing and ever-evolving crisis we are facing.

You’re overwhelmed. You’re feeling everything.  You’re carrying the weight of so many others right now. No wonder you’re so tired and anxious.

Given these common aspects of being an HSP, it’s essential for you to care for yourself during the time.

Taking care of yourself right now is not a luxury, but a social responsibility so you can stay as grounded as possible.

We aren’t certain what lies ahead, so we need to ensure we are our most resourced and resilient selves right now.  (Remember, you can be sensitive and strong!)

When we take care of our sensitive selves, we can skillfully respond to the crisis instead of being overcome with fear and panic.

7 Self-Care Strategies for Highly Sensitive People (HSP) during the Coronavirus Outbreak

 

1. Limit exposure to media about the outbreak, including news sources, television, or social media.

Due to your depth of processing and high levels of empathy, distressing news stories will be particularly taxing to your nervous system.  While it might not seem much at the time, every bit of ‘breaking news’ just adds one more hit of stress to your system.

Over time, this will start to wear you down both physically and emotionally – making you feel overwhelmed with anxiety, numb, or helpless – if you don’t already feel that way.

It’s okay to step away momentarily, even for chunks at a time, to keep yourself grounded.  I promise the news will be there when you return.

If you do choose to engage in social media, balance your reading with uplifting content.  It’s particularly important to avoid news sources that are meant to be inflammatory or intended to incite fear or panic.

If it feels hard to stop the scrolling, consider deleting news or social media apps from your phone.  You can also set time limits or use an app that blocks certain sites for a pre-determined period of time. It’s okay to ask a loved one to hang on to your devices for an hour or so to limit access.

When you start to limit or slow down exposure to news sources, it will be uncomfortable at first. That’s completely normal.  Just give it some time to pass. As your mind and body settle, you’ll glad you stepped away to get perspective.

2. Focus on what you can control.

Here’s the thing about Highly Sensitive People: You’re innately wired to imagine all the possibilities.  Faced with a global pandemic, is it any wonder you might be paralyzed with fear and anxiety?

If you are reading the news or social commentaries, the largest feeling for many is uncertainty.  And rightfully so. Schools are closing. Sports seasons are suspended.  Travel is stalled. Shelves are barren. Confirmed cases are rising.

Your mind is flooded with questions: How long will this last? What impact will this have on the economy or the election? When can my kids return to school? Will I even have a job to return to?

It’s during these times where I encourage you to focus on what you can control.  This may entail how you respond to your emotions, who you talk to (or don’t) about your feelings, and which news sources you consume. It may be about controlling small choices, such as what you wear, when you cook, what you read, or when you walk your dog.

Self-care exercise: Set a timer for 5 minutes.  Start writing down every little thing you can control right now.  Keep writing even if you can’t think of anything.  Post this list some place easy to see, or put on your phone for quick reference when you feel anxious.

3. Spend time outside or in nature. (If you can’t, let’s get creative.)

Nature is incredibly healing and grounding for most Highly Sensitive People.  While the requirements for social distancing vary from place to place, you may be able to take a walk on a trail, sit a park, or take a scenic drive without putting others at risk.

If you are on quarantine or part of a high-risk population, and not suppose to leave your home, consider creative ways to get your ‘nature’ fix, such as:

  • Spend time sitting in the sunshine by your window.
  • Give special care to your plants, making sure to appreciate their colors and textures.
  • Listen to the sound of rain falling or waterfalls with your eyes closed.
  • Take a bath with forest-based scents such as cedarwood or pine.
  • Practice guided imagery based on your favorite nature setting.

4. Lean on your furry friends.

Our wonderful pets already do so much for our sensitive nervous system, don’t they?  It’s okay to lean on them (literally and figuratively) right now.

Consider these pet-infused self-care strategies:

  • Give your pet some extra cuddle time or pats.  Remind them how loved they are.
  • If you’re working from home, don’t hesitate to set up a workstation which allows your pet to curl up or perch beside you.
  • When you take your dog (or cat!) on a walk, leave your phone behind or on silent. Watch the way your pup interacts with their surroundings with pure wonder and excitement.
  • Confine in your pets your deepest fears and worries. They won’t judge.
  • Set aside time to play with your pets.  It’s good for both of you!
  • Distract yourself by teaching your pet new tricks.
  • Join social media groups devoted to your favorite furry friend.

5. Create new routines to ground yourself.

If your daily routine has been completely disrupted by the pandemic, you’re feeling unsettled and disoriented.  Guest what? It’s time to create a new routine, even if you can’t leave the house.

Harness the power of routine to create calm and certainty.

A routine doesn’t have to be spectacular.  It may be committing to rise at the same time every day.  To spend 10 minutes meditating or reading a (relaxing) book upon waking. Perhaps it’s the willingness to turn off your phone an hour before sleep. 

I invite you to pause right now and write down three things you could do upon waking and before bed to start or end your day coming from a centered place. This might be reading, making the bed, playing an instrument, writing in your journal, or playing with your kids.

Consider creating routines with your partner or family as well.  You might also consider sharing this new routine with a loved one to help hold you accountable.

6. Lean into the good.

We will find what we look for. If you search for news sources or stories about the negative, you will find it.  But if you look for the good, you will find it, too.

There are many stories out there that are a demonstration of the strength of the human spirit in crisis. From people going to the store for the elderly/at-risk populations to the Italians singing in quarantine, there are stories everywhere of how the human spirit is shining during this global crisis.

There may also be possibilities within your own life.  Perhaps your time off work will allow you to reconnect with your partner, learn a new language, improve your wellness, or reassess your priorities.  You’ll have time to work on your memoir or get your home organized.  Your business can get creative in how it can shift services to be more online-based.

Remember, we find what we look for.  While we can’t discount the global suffering and crisis, we must acknowledge a state of high anxiety for an extended period wears you down to the point you can’t help anyone. Use that wonderful sensitive brain to lean into the good right now, amidst the crisis.

7. Limit the time spent talking with others about the outbreak.

It’s really hard to not have the outbreak be the main – and only – topic of conversation right now.  But just like overexposing ourselves to news stories and social media about the coronavirus can be harmful, the same applies to conversations with others.

As a Highly Sensitive Person, it’s important to be able to process what you’re feeling with someone who will be empathic and non-judgemental.  Unfortunately, given your deep-feeling and helpful nature, you may be the one many people turn to when they need a listening ear, leaving you without a place to share your thoughts and feelings.

Between hearing other’s fears, and feeling your own, it’s enough to leave you depleted, stressed, and overwhelm. 

It’s okay to set boundaries with others to limit your time spent talking about the outbreak. Consider using these statements:

  • “Let’s spend 5 minutes talking about COVID, after that, I’d like to change the subject and tell you about this new recipe I discovered.” 
  • “Let’s take a break from talking about the pandemic right now.  What shows are you enjoying?”
  • “I hear you’re really worried right now. I am, too. Let’s take a moment to talk about something that might lift our spirits, as opposed to adding to our anxiety.”
  • “I’m also overwhelmed with all the news right now.  Let’s focus on how we’ve been taking care of ourselves during this difficult time.”
  • “I’m limiting my exposure to media on the outbreak. Can you hold off on sending me articles for the next day/week?”
  • “It seems like you’re really impacted by the news.  Do you have a therapist or someone who can help you process this?” 

There are many other ways you can practice self-care in this time of uncertainty.

A few others worth mentioning:

  • Lean into (virtual) communities and connect with others over video chat.
  • Explore how you can be helpful to others.
  • Be gentle on yourself.
  • Practice meditation, yoga, or other soothing activities.
  • Send letters to loved ones who are isolated due to quarantine or those unable to come home due to travel restrictions.
  • Reflect and reassess your priorities.
  • Step away from screens.
  • Turn off non-essential notifications on your phone.
  • Use humor or consume light-hearted, funny shows or media.

However you choose to care for yourself as a sensitive being, my hope is you find something that works for you and stick with it. Self-care strategies work best when you do it consistently

Wherever you are, however you’re coping, please know all feelings and experiences are valid and welcome.

Please stay safe and be well.


If you’re feeling especially impacted by the Coronavirus Outbreak, please reach out.

I’m available for video or phone sessions.  

Contact me here.

 

For Highly Sensitive People: 6 Reasons Why Therapy Isn’t Working And How To Change It

If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, small accommodations can go a long way in up-leveling your therapy experience.

As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), therapy can be an incredible tool for self-exploration, personal growth, healing past wounds, or bettering your relationships.

You can learn the basic traits of being an HSP.  You can learn to finally speak up for yourself.  You can learn what to do when you just can’t stop thinking and ruminating about the past.  You can learn how being a sensitive child has influenced you today.

Unfortunately, there are times when you’re not getting everything you hoped from therapy.   Continue reading “For Highly Sensitive People: 6 Reasons Why Therapy Isn’t Working And How To Change It”

Coming May 2019 – Summer Group For Sensitive Souls

– Announcing –

Healing + Empowerment for the Sensitive Soul

An 8-week Therapy Group Intensive for Sensitives, Empaths, and Deep Feelers


Does this sound like you?

  • You’ve always felt different. You notice things others don’t catch.  You’re creative, empathic, and highly observant.
  • You avoid conflict at all costs.  You were raised to be ‘nice’ and put others’ needs before your own.  It leaves you feeling lost, resentful, and depressed.
  • Others criticize you for being “too emotional” or “too much”.  They don’t understand how painful it is to feel overwhelmed and overstimulated.  You wish you could learn to let their words roll off your back.
  • Your inner world is so complex and rich.  You wish you knew someone else who sees the world the way you do and feels as deeply as you do.
  • You get frustrated when there is too much on your plate.  You wish you could juggle multiple commitments with the ease of others. It adds to the feeling that you don’t quite fit in.
  • You have a deep need for purpose, novelty, connection, and excitement.  You also need lots of downtime and solitude.  You don’t know how to balance the needs of both sides of you and end up feeling either bored, lonely, or burned out.

Join a therapy group this summer that was created with you in mind.

Continue reading “Coming May 2019 – Summer Group For Sensitive Souls”

For Highly Sensitive People: How to Take Care Of Yourself After An Epic Storm

If you’re anywhere in the Denver or surrounding areas, you just witnessed a winter storm of historic proportions.

A “bomb cyclone” hit the Front Range yesterday, resulting in hurricane-level winds, thousands of folks left without power, numerous accidents and stranded vehicles.  Additionally, Denver International Airport grounded all flights yesterday, leaving over 4,000 people stranded at the airport.  As I write this, runways are starting to open, but many major highways are still closed.  Continue reading “For Highly Sensitive People: How to Take Care Of Yourself After An Epic Storm”

6 Reasons Why Highly Sensitive People Need A Capsule Wardrobe

Getting dressed in the morning can be overwhelming for Highly Sensitive People. You walk into a jam-packed closet, yet feel like you have nothing to wear.  All your favorite outfits are in the wash.  Your cozy clothes aren’t “professional” enough for work.  You just don’t feel like wearing black (again) today.  All your shirts with annoying tags or ill-placed seams are banished to the back of your closet.  Continue reading “6 Reasons Why Highly Sensitive People Need A Capsule Wardrobe”

7 Ways to Embrace Winter as a Highly Sensitive Person

For Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), the change in seasons can be a time of delight or dread. 

For folks living in hotter climates, the fall and winter bring about a welcome reprieve from the oppressive heat and sweltering humidity.  Yet, for others, the change means colder weather, shorter days, and less sunshine.

Most Highly Sensitive people are very in tune with their environment and the seasons.  Often these changes bring about difficult emotions. Winter can mean isolation because you aren’t socializing as much.  Loneliness, shame, or anger may surface as you feel the impending holidays that may or may not be nourishing to you. Continue reading “7 Ways to Embrace Winter as a Highly Sensitive Person”

For Therapists: 6 Reasons Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) Matter to Your Therapy Practice

If you aren’t familiar with the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) it refers to about 15-20% of the population who possess a unique sensory processing trait which allows them to pick up more on subtleties in the environment, resulting in deeper processing and often being easily overwhelmed with stimuli. HSPs are often gifted with having a rich inner life, complex imagination, and deep empathy for others. Continue reading “For Therapists: 6 Reasons Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) Matter to Your Therapy Practice”