You’re a go-getter, a peacekeeper, and a dreamer.
You’re in tune to others and feel the world deeply.
You take things more personally than you’d like to admit.
You’re great at putting on a smile and telling the world you’re okay.
And you are. Mostly.
You have days where you feel amazing. Connected. In sync.
Yet. It never lasts, does it?
Shame, sadness, and overwhelm take over. You struggle through work and then hide out in your apartment for days at a time. You put on a mask so no one knows how much you’re hurting inside.
You feel like a burden to your partner, friends, and family because of the intensity of your emotions. You can’t explain why things just don’t roll off your back.
You’re always giving without getting anything back. Eventually, you get overwhelmed and lash out in anger, desperate for help. This backfires horribly. You go back to hiding, people-pleasing, and staying quiet. (It sucks.)
It wasn’t always this hard.
Then ‘it’ happened. An assault. A toxic, abusive relationship. Something terrible that you don’t want to tell anyone.
Or it wasn’t any “one” moment, but a culmination of hurts, betrayals, and disappointments starting from when you were young.
Over time, it became harder and harder for you to feel happy and believe in the world.
You stopped feeling like you anymore. Just an empty shell of a person.
You’ve tried #allthethings to feel better.
Talking to friends (although you usually end up doing the listening.)
Diets. Shopping. Cleaning.
Marie-Kondi-ing your apartment.
Numbing out with Netflix & potato chips.
No matter what you do, who you please, what you eat, where you shop, who you date, how much you clean…
you’re still feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and hopeless.
So, you’ve become a doormat. A compulsive people-pleaser. The “nice one”.
And you HATE it.
You’re terrified to ask for what you want. (Hell, you’re not even sure *what* you want.)
Your past relationships have been confusing, empty, or even abusive.
Your work is both mind-numbing and overwhelming.
You’d love to pursue your passions… if you just had the energy.
You won’t admit this to anyone, but…
You’re afraid no matter…
…how hard you excel at work and school
….how much you try to make others happy
…how organized and on top of life you are
you’ll STILL never feel good enough.
This doesn’t have to be your life.
Imagine you woke up and felt peaceful, happy, and deeply connected with yourself and the world around you.
You have a community, friends, and a romantic partner that honors — and even celebrates — your sensitive, fierce, quirky nature.
You have a life and a work schedule that suits your personality, as opposed to fighting against it. You end the day with energy to spare for your loved ones, hobbies, and yourself.
Finally, relationships start to feel safe. You are learning to trust yourself, believe in your worth, and allow the past to be healed.
Here’s where I come in
I’m Arianna Smith. (she/her/hers). I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor providing individual counseling and EMDR therapy in Littleton, Colorado.
I guide high-achieving, sensitive people in how to go from trying to please everyone to figuring out how to take care of themselves first.
In therapy with me, you can learn how to:
Understand the over-giving/resentful/angry cycle (and learn how to stop it.)
Learn how to keep your compassionate, caring nature without being a doormat.
Feel happy, loveable, and whole regardless of how your family, partner, friend, or boss is feeling.
Stop feeling responsible for other people’s emotions (and learn to focus on your own.)
Feel less triggered or overwhelmed when receiving criticism from family, friends, or colleagues.
Ask for what you want and say ‘no’ without guilt.
Stop pretending you don’t have needs and actually get the support you want from others.
Nothing is wrong with you.
Seriously. Nothing is wrong with you.
I’m willing to shout it from the rooftops. Go to your place of work with a singing telegram. Hire a pilot to have the message scrolling throughout the skies.
Deep down, I know that you are built for growth, change, and healing.
If you are reading this, a small part of you knows it, too.
What are the next steps?
Our first step is to have a brief phone call for me to learn more about you, explain the therapy process, and answer any questions you have.