Hey! It’s Arianna Smith here.
I’m an EMDR clinician & Licensed Professional Counselor.
Not to mention book nerd, cat-lover, and Earl Grey connoisseur.
Weaknesses include: internet quizzes, sassy mugs, candied ginger, and YA literature.
What I know for sure
First off, there is NOTHING wrong with you, okay?
Nor are you broken, “too much”, or “too sensitive” – or any other combination of demeaning things someone may have said to you (or you have said to yourself). However, we can look at why you might tell yourself that sometimes.
You are *so* much more than what has happened to you. Even if it feels like the past is all you can think about, there are time-tested tools we can use to get you back to living your life in the present.
I believe that a sense of humor is a critical part of healing.
Sometimes we have to laugh at the absurdity of our lives and problems. I see humor and laughter as an inadvertent way to bring self-compassion and self-love to our situation. I will never use humor to judge, belittle, or criticize you. Only to shine a gentle light on where you may be hard on yourself or others.
If you want a therapist who can roll with your sarcasm and f-bombs, I’m your gal.
I’m body/size-positive and work from a Health at Every Size (HAES) approach. Diets suck (and don’t work). You can be healthy and happy at any size. Your worth or value has absolutely no relation to your size, weight, or body type.
Who I Work Best With
My focus is guiding high-achieving, successful women to go from anxious, overwhelmed, and hopeless to feeling happy, loved, and secure in their relationships.
There are many reasons that you might be anxious about your relationship, and my focus is on healing and understanding the reasons that may be the case. These include:
- You’re a Highly Sensitive Person, empath, or deep-feeler. In past relationship, you’ve been told you’re ‘too much’ or that you take things too personally. You’re ready to learn how to advocate for yourself as you dip your toe back into the dating world or reassess your current relationship.
- You’re a member of the LGBTQ community, who has experienced sexual assault or domestic violence. You’re frustrated at how you keep getting triggered by your partner. You hate feeling so irritable – but you know it’s because you haven’t fully resolve past experiences that you’ve shut out from your mind.
- You’re healing from a past toxic or abusive relationship. Today, you’ve finally found a good partner, but you still don’t feel like you can trust them. You are afraid that if your partner found out what happened to you, they would leave you.
You may feel like you don’t perfectly ‘fit’ into any of these areas. That’s totally okay. If you feel drawn to work with me, I’d love to talk!
How Therapy Works
Every therapist has certain modalities and approaches they use to bring their clients the best results.
One of the main roadmaps I use is called Internal Family Systems. I believe people are made up of ‘parts’ and that every part is important to know and welcome into the room. Everything you do has a purpose and a good intention (even if the impact is harmful) and makes sense within the context of your life.
I use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) which is a memory-based approach that is helpful for getting icky, traumatic, or nagging thoughts or feelings to become less overwhelming and distressing. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (either tapping, tones, or eye movements) to help unpleasant memories become unstuck.
I lean heavily on Attachment Theory. Attachment theory is great for understanding why you might pick the same (terrible) partner over and over, why you panic when your partner doesn’t text you back immediately, or why you push people away despite feeling lonely.
I also utilize a smattering of other modalities, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, and Person-Centered Therapy.
Basically, I know how to blend a variety of techniques together to provide therapy that is uniquely suited to YOU.
I’d love to talk to you more about if counseling with me is a good fit for you. We would start with a phone call for me to learn more about you.